After knowing you for 18 years now, and
being your friend for most of them, the best advice I think I can give you is
live your live, try to understand yourself, meditate, travel on your own
enjoying the scenery, go out with friends, have a laugth, and live with no
complications.
The only thing I can tell you is that
in this live you should do things that will make you happy. Even if we know
that sometimes we will hurt someone we love. But if we don’t try we will never
get the chance to know if we did the right thing or not.
Only when you are on your own and
understand your real needs, and have in your mind what do you expect of the
other in a relationship you will be ready to have one without hurting each
other.
I know that when I get a bit annoyed I
send you to talk to your mother, that obviously knows you better than anyone in
the entire world, but she still a mum and will want the best for you, and the
best for you is not always that makes us happier.
As you told me before as long as you
have a family that loves you and cares for you, you will always have a roof to
sleep under, sometimes leaving a person is difficult due to the bonds you made,
but if you have a bad start, probably you will have a worst ending.
If you really
care about a person talk to him or her and don’t impose your own criteria about
relationships and friendships. Communication is the best way of understanding. If
the two of you are not able to communicate and expose each other your needs,
likings, problems, aims, Etc., … what is the base of your coexistence?
This was my very first contact with
the person that says that loves you, we didn´t know each other, but I was a bit
annoyed with her behaviour, due to I got this message:
“I am his girlfriend. We are moving in together.
He has deleted you on Facebook. Do not send any more friend requests.”
I knew something wasn’t quite right.
How a woman that I hadn’t had the
pleasure of knowing believe herself with the right of imposing me and another
person that we cannot be friends.
But as I am a very polite and understanding
person, I decided to answer to her in the very best way I could:
“I´m
happy for you two. He will always be one of my best friends even if we are
apart and living 2.000 km driving from each other, for your message I know that
you are not able to understand the reason of this matter. Anyway I wish you
luck and patience and that your love and friendship for him persist in time as
ours have done. Please send him all my love (now that I found out that you
forced him to block me from his contacts)
Regards,
Me”
Reading another people messages,
getting inside others accounts and similar behaviours are synthons of a manipulative,
controlling and dominant person. That tries to look for the mistakes or what
the other person is doing wrong instead of looking in to the oneself and made a
constructive criticism of her/himself.
It´s only a piece of advice, but
sometimes you are better off on your own:
Go for whatever makes you happy
Whatever makes you feel bad leave it
Whatever makes you smile keep it
